................. Are there Rules in the Afterlife? .............

Hi Angela, 
I think it is possible to be temporarily confused immediately after a sudden unexpected death. I do not believe the confusion lasts longer then moments however. Obviously this is simply my opinion, as is anyone's explanation of the afterlife. There is no way to know for sure. I only know what spirits have told me, and the rest is based on faith. There is no right or wrong to grieving, and you are not stopping the natural order of things (in my opinion). Loved ones we have lost can move on when they want to, even if family is still grieving. That said, they often feel responsible to the ones they have left behind, and stand watch to make sure everyone will be ok. There are no black and white formulas for this and why people stay behind is as complex as the lives we live.

A "better place" means different things to different people and is based on some sort of faith or belief system. You mentioned that you are a "christian" and typically "christians" believe in an afterlife without pain and supreme love.
Your posts are very heartfelt and it is very clear that your children are the very world to you. You are right in that counselors and others who have never lost a child can never really know the depth of this tragedy. Does this minimize the guidance, love and wisdom they provide? Only you can answer this question. 
I wish peace and a unburdened spirit for you this day, 
~W

I have found a site that explains the "blips" that I described on my sons EVP. It says that when those sounds are noticed usually right before the spirit speaks it is usually a Class A EVP. That explains why mine is so much clearer than most I have been hearing AND that it is authentic. I am thrilled. The article is on the Big Circle web site under Researcher Articles and it is called "Precursor Sounds in Physical Phenomena" Its VERY informative and interesting in case you want to check it out. I also found another EVP that has the same sounds on it as mine does. Its on you tube called "EVPs from a 19 year old Spirit Named Virginia". That one is very clear as well. I am so happy to have found this kind of evidence!  Peace and Love, Angela

That is all awesome Angela, and Whitelight you are so full of information I love listening and learning from you :)
I learn a lot..
Angela I would still like our team to listen to what you have and have them guide you as well..They are very well experienced and well have the expertise you are looking for they are also very grounded and will not lie to you and give you the honest truth of your findings.
Just keep us posted and I do hope you contact Julie and/or Robin who in turn can probably contact Whitelight as well..
Blessings..